Tuesday, April 19, 2011

Birthday Blues

Many years ago, a veterinarian friend of mine who was a casual visitor to our home used to remark that we were an ideal couple. When asked how , he would say- na ek doosre ke bina reh sakte hain naa ek doosre ke saath . And he was not wrong , as my wife and I ‘have’ a strange relationship- I wonder if I can use the word ‘ enjoy’ in this context. We have nothing in common except our two kids .

It is natural that we never ever wish each other even when the occasion demands.

The other day was her birthday, and early in the morning, my daughter on seeing her said “ Wah Wah Birthday Girl ! Not one to miss an opportunity to tease her, I said - Birthday Girl or Birthday Budhia. ? A stern look and a rebuff Apni shakal dekhi hai kabhi ?” was the natural and expected reaction from the angry lady.

Later when I was about to leave for office, she said , “Aaj meri ek hi maang hai “. I was a bit taken aback thinking that when she herself held the purse strings , what she might demand from a kadka husband like me. But it was reassuring to think that being one who went to purchase dresses would instead return with curtains and bed sheets , no big deal was underway. It transpired that all she asked was to arrange for her to visit Hanuman Temple , i.e. Sankatmochan , some fifteen kilometer from my residence. Some how I was able to fulfill this small wish of hers. .

In the evening , a tongue - in - cheek remark awaited me as when I went back from office , she offered me the Prasad saying Bhagwan, sadbuddhi de !


  1. Good One Sir.... And Belated happy Birthday to Mam...

  2. a n d ...
    one other thing
    you both have in common
    "Sankatmochanji ka prasaad" !

    mam ke janmdin ki aapko bhi badhaaee .

  3. .

    Belated happy birthday wishes. May heaven's choicest blessings be with her always.

    In a marriage usually the best bonding happens between the two with strongly opposite characteristics. Like the opposite pole attracts , there develops a strong bond with great magnetism. They love to discover the fascinating traits of spouse and gladly submit to it. The relationship reaches to full maturity after completing the second decade of married life. They both start knowing each other perfectly and communicate in monosyllables . At times the silence between the two communicates beautifully.

    Her punch line " Ishwaar sadbuddhi de" is beautiful. It made me smile.

    In my daily prayers I ask for "Sadbuddhi" for myself.


  4. बहुत बढ़िया लिखा है आपने.
    यह रिश्ता बहुत नाज़ुक है,बहुत गहरा है,पर बहुत सहज और सरल भी है.
    एक दिन सुबह की पहली चाय बनाएं और और उन्हें पिलायें.
    देखिये कितनी मुसकराहटें मिलेंगी सारा दिन.
    सार्थक लेखन के लिए आभार.

    भाभी श्री को जन्मदिन की शुभ कामनाएं.
    ईश्वर सब को सद्बुद्धि दे.

  5. @ Bharti ji, thanks a lot for the good wishes and for liking the mock-tail , since we know each other first hand !

    @ Daanish ji, thanks a lot for the good wishes and for instlling that essential positive outlook in me !

    @ Zeal , as usual, I find no reason to disagree with you. We are already through the seventh year of the third decade of wedded life . The maturity of your ideas andthoughts at this young age is simply amazing !
    Thanks a lot for the support, the new insights and the good wishes !

    @ विशाल जी, समय समय पर दिए जाने वाले प्रोत्साहन एवं शुभकामनाओं के लिए आभार ! एक बात आपसे सांझा करना चाहूँगा- धर्मपत्नी के लिए दो वक़्त साधारण चाय, एक वक़्त लेमन टी , बिटिया के लिए ब्लैक टी तथा बेटे के लिए - जब छुट्टियों में आया हो - तो कॉफी बनाना मेरे ही जिम्मे है और मुझे यह सब करना अच्छा भी लगता है . पर मुस्कराहट- नो वे ! But she is loving and caring in her own strange way !